The New World of Dating

Is it that time? Time to think about a new prospect? I’ve got you!

I know that the first thing you are either saying to yourself or out loud is that you never thought you would be in this position again, right?  We thought our marriage was forever and we would not be in the dating world again.  I get it and thought the same.  Alas, we ARE here again.  

So, if you want to venture out into finding a new potential partner I have some suggestions, from trial and error.  First, decide how much time you envision spending on this part of life.  You have a lot on your plate and quality time with your kids is the priority.  If you split time with your ex-spouse then that is the perfect opportunity to distract yourself and feel out this new world. 

With single motherhood, it is hard to devote yourself to something else.  My suggestion would be to create a dating app.  If you have been married for a while or never used an app you may have a negative feeling about being online in that way.  I will tell you, however, that these days, dating apps are SO common and many people meet in this way.  I have tested out a few during my dating days…

Bumble: This one is unique because the first move has to be made by the woman.  You cannot be ‘messaged’ or in contact unless YOU approve of it and have an interest.  If you make a full profile and pay for the membership you can then see people that like you in addition to swiping thru the very many who are on the site and choosing the ones that you find interesting or attractive.  Then, you make the first move and it goes from there.  I liked this app.

Match: Interestingly enough this app is highly recommended when you google the best dating apps.  Although I was on this one too and I found some interesting people on it, I did not like it because you are accessible to anyone, unlike Bumble.  So, I would receive messages that sometimes were completely inappropriate and would turn me off.  On this app, it can be anyone to start up a conversation.  

Hinge: I like the setup of this app.  Anyone can start a conversation here as well, but sorting out what you do and do not like was easier because of the format of the app.  I would recommend this one.

EHarmony: I like the concept of this one because you are surveyed as well as the potential suitors.  Based on your responses the algorithm matches you with what makes sense.  The negative here is that it is not necessarily taking into consideration your physical type.  Also, you are only sent a few options daily so if they do not fit your physical profile it is a wash.  

Stir: This one made its way to popularity after I was off of dating apps, but it is geared towards single parents.  I would have definitely tested this one out, had I known about it.  If anyone has tried it, I would love feedback!

In addition to the apps, nowadays there are mixers.  I believe this is most popular in Manhattan and possibly other larger cities, but they are making their way to more places.  So, look it up and try to get yourself there!  It is a night out and you can meet multiple people in one evening.  Don’t you remember Miranda doing this and meeting the ‘ER’ doctor?!  🤭

Tell me what has worked or not worked for you! We need to help each other out and be there for one another throughout this journey.

xo

Tray💕